Men the world over seem to be in agreement about what makes women good in bed. These seem to be the same across cultures, age groups, financial and social standing, and much more.
She Loves Sex….
Anyone who loves what they are doing is usually good at it!
They are always keeping an eye out for new and different ways to rock their mate’s world as well as enhance their own experience. This may entail reading books such as “Tickle His Pickle", watching adult films to steal techniques, or simply having discussions with close girlfriends to get tips. Simply put, they want to be the best and take pride in being skilful.
She Is Proactive With Regard To Reaching Her Own Orgasm….
The number one thing that makes a woman memorable to a man is his knowing he blew her mind in bed. I’m not talking about embracing the art of faking orgasms.
Essentially this goes back to her loving sex.
It’s difficult to love something without getting enjoyment out of it.
A woman who has explored her own body and knows how to bring herself to climax can pretty much guide any man that is not “naturally instinctive” in the ways of pleasing her.
“You can’t teach what you don’t know!”
A sexually proactive woman doesn’t simply lay back and leave things up to chance.
She will shift her body, get on top, and even manually stimulate herself during intercourse if the position they are in allows for it.This woman knows her man is going to keep thrusting until he climaxes and she is willing to do her part to make sure that she climaxes as well.
His body is her tool and she knows just how to use it to get the results she wants.
Men are turned off by overly passive women who lay on their backs and expect them to “make magic happen”. Great sex is not for the timid.
There are many women who mistakenly believe that the reason a man stopped calling is because “He got what he wanted”. However, in many instances, it’s just the opposite. The sex was boring! Nobody wants boring or "vanilla sex"!
A proactive woman takes matters into her own hands or mouth to get the ball rolling if necessary.
The number one complaint most men have regarding bad sex with women is they didn’t move coupled with an overall lack of passion and silence. (Queue the cricket soundtrack).
She Is Vocal…..
Sex in silence is a real buzz kill!
The only exception is if you’re being quiet to keep from being discovered. In this case it can be intensifying as you force yourselves to hold back your noises.
However for the most part sex without any moans, rapid breathing, screams of passion, body clutching tension, or naughty/four letter words of expression can seem like taking a walk around the block. Even if you’re not a moaner or screamer words of encouragement can enhance a session. “That’s it!”, “Keep it right there”, “Don’t Stop!” “Yes! Yes! Yes!”
Hell, most guys would settle for having a woman pound the mattress, squeeze a pillow, or mumble inaudible sounds while turning her head from side to side.
Once again I caution you, this is not about acting or faking orgasms.
It’s about being vocally expressive when things do feel good.
She Flirts and Uses Sexual Innuendo……
Men love to feel desired too!
A woman who expresses she has sex on her mind during the course of the day is a real turn on. This can be done with a naughty voicemail or email indicating what she wants to do with him or reflecting back on something they have done the night before or at a prior time.
Some women give their partner’s penis a pet name which can be used in code during a conversation along with a pet name for her vagina. It can be as spicy as you want it to be or as tame as “Tell Johnny Tammy says hello”….or whatever.
The point is she lets her man know she is thinking of him in sexual terms and he is desired.
A man in love will work hard to continue getting that type of response from his woman.
She Surprises Him……
A woman who has a knack for doing the unexpected from time to time will easily separate herself from other women in most men’s lives.
Naturally, it helps to know how open minded her man is.
This could range from wearing something sexy or nothing at all when he gets home to bringing toys, chocolate syrup, crushed ice, heat sensation lotions/jells, and adult board games to bed. Jumping in the shower to play in the suds or giving him unexpected oral pleasure while he’s watching television or doing some mundane task.
Booking a room at an adult/ romance themed hotel similar to The Sybaris or Essence Suites can make for quite a memorable time.
Practice Makes Perfect…..
Whether you are a woman or man the only way to become good or great at anything is to have the intention of being so. In the long run, no one is great at anything by accident.
It all starts with having the desire and the willingness to put in the effort.
Naturally, with each new relationship, one becomes involved in the first few sessions will entail going through your standard “go to moves” based on your past experiences.
No two people are the same.
However, in a long term relationship or marriage one is presented with an opportunity to refine their skills to their specific mate. Given time you can learn what every sigh or body movement means guiding you towards your next move of deciding whether to tease or to please. Communicating desires and fantasies outside of the bedroom is just as important as giving queues inside the bedroom.
“Monogamy becomes boring when couples become lazy”.
Law of Reciprocity…..
You will know you have found your sexual soul-mate when they demonstrate the need to please you as much as you make the effort to please them.
The Way We Were…
It’s extremely difficult to let go of a “great sex partner” even if you know they are not right for you in many other ways.
Most of us have experienced at one time or another being involved with someone who was absolutely incredible in bed but we had sense enough to move on for various other reasons.
Unfortunately the memories of being with them linger in our minds and haunt us from time to time.
For whatever reason you may not end up in a “happily ever after fairytale” with the person you are presently seeing, but you can live on forever in their minds.
A great lover is impossible to forget.
